The Secret to True Transformation

I have been working as a psychologist for the past 20 years.  In university classes, I have taught thousands of students about human behavior.  In private practice, I have coached hundreds of business leaders to improve their skills at work. But I have come to one conclusion:

I cannot change behavior.

Not the kind of change that melts an ugly caterpillar down to nothing and turns it into one of the most beautiful, elegant creatures on the planet.

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It takes God to transform from the inside out.

The Greek word for “transforms” is metamorphosis. It is used to describe the amazing process of transforming a caterpillar into a butterfly. Every summer, a friend supplies me with a few caterpillars and a couple of sturdy sticks (for them to attach to) in a large glass jar. I never get tired of observing the transformation process up close!

Some take only a week, while others take months to emerge from their cocoons – it’s all in His timing. But I must say the ones that take the longest to “process” have the most stunning designs and colors when they finally emerge.

This is a beautiful picture of our spiritual progress in Him. While you are an active participant, don’t try to force any transformation in your own strength. These are things that only He can do in your life. Just be patient

Remember His ultimate goal is to produce people that look like Him. And no matter where you are in your walk with God, there is always room to grow. Paul said, “Not that I have already attained, or am already perfected; but I press on…” (Philippians 3:12).

All He asks is for you to be willing to be willing.  He will do the work. You don’t produce the results – He does.  It’s more about yielding; less about striving.  

Let Him remake and remold what has not developed properly. “He will see to it that everything is finished correctly”( 1 Chronicles 28:20 TLB). Steadily, and without conscious effort, you will be transformed. 

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  1. Michal says:

    I would rather say: “Be persistent.” In other words, show up.
    I had been attending my church community for over 15 years, before He did some transformative miracles in myself.
    I tell ya’, I wasn’t patient. I was crying, complaining, grumbling and yelling at Him all the time.
    I attended anyway.

  2. Joel Nielsen says:

    Thanks, Stefani for launching this very relevant issue. Many reading it will surely be encouraged, it will be those knowing and being conscious of theiri calling but struggle with church problems and perhaps personal difficulties in the process of progressing in spiritual development..

    And thanks to you, Michal for describing your experience! This scenario is very similar to what I’m going through – church wise.. Thanks to God and His ‘patience’ I see light ahead, also regarding the church I’m attending. At some time, I also yelled at God and asked what the idea was of wasting so many yesrs attending the same (hopeless traditional) church .. But praise to God, that I now see His goal and purpose for His Church, in an overall picture which include my (and my wifes) small local assambly..

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